Van Buren, Arkansas
Sunday, Dec. 10, 1950
Dear Ruth;
With your letter of October 23rd before me I see that you are
leaving for England on December 15th; next Friday. I do hope this letter
will reach you before then, to wish you a happy Christmas and pleasant
visit with son, Bill. Do write us soon after you return and tell us all
about it all. I'm so glad you can have this pleasant experience, but will
be glad when you are back on this side of the ocean. I love you and don't
want you too far away. Wish we could see each other more often. You've
been my friend longer than any one else you know - since we were babies.
The older we get, the more our old friends mean to us, and you know how
dear Mama loved you and yours. Your letter of October 23rd gave her so
much pleasure, as did your thoughtfulness in writing her on other days
as Mother's day etc.
As you said, we were indeed so fortunate to have her for so long.
You know she was eighty-three last May 5, 1950. You know what a wonderful
character she was. What a sweet, cheerful unselfish life she lived. All
who knew her, loved her. She was interested in all that went on around
her, and never turned her thoughts inward like so many older people do.
Of course you know how we miss her, for you've gone through the
same thing - giving up your dear Mother. And what a dear, beautiful person
she was. I'm glad we knew her so long.
On Friday, October 27th, evening, Mama seemed as well as usual,
and helped Anna with the dishes (She loved to be doing something to help).
I had gone with others to Fort Smith to the last meeting of a Sunday School
training class. Arriving home at 9:30. I found her still awake, but in
bed. She wanted to hear all about the meeting and I stood by her bed and
talked for about twenty minutes, and she enjoyed hearing about it all.
Then she told me goodnight and I went into my room that opened into hers,
and began undressing. She fell asleep and in about ten minutes, awoke coughing
like she had swallowed the wrong way. I thought nothing of it at first,
as sometimes she would wake up coughing, and take a pinch of salt to "cut
the phlegm" as she said. But this time the salt didn't stop it. I called
Anna from her room and when this coughing grew more violent we called a
doctor. Our regular doctor was out of town, and we got one here, a new
man, whom the Cooper Clinic recommended. He came and thought she had a
virus infection which if not stopped would turn into pneumonia. Also, noting
that her feet were swollen he said the heart was also involved - but he
thought that the third dose of a strong new medicine he had in capsules
would check the cough and relieve her as it had for another elderly patient.
Then he left - but the third dose didn't relieve the cough but for five
or ten minutes, then it grew steadily worse, and that went on for five
hours. We called the doctor back, and as he walked into the room she breathed
her last, with Anna, Nelson and me all with her still trying but unable
to do anything. It was hard to believe for the doctor had told of one he
had just pulled through, who was older than Mama. Will Sadler, when he
came said that, from what we told him, he believed she had a heart attack
and not any virus infection as was thought. Her heart was weakened by her
diabetes and pernicious anemia.
Bless her heart, she was so brave through it all. It was sudden,
but it was the way she would have preferred, for she always said she hoped
she would never have to linger sick a long time because did not want to
trouble others.
When we miss Mama most, we try to think of her joy at being re-united
with Papa and our other loved ones in Heaven. Thank God for our Christian
faith and hope!
Ruth you have such a nice family and grandchildren, I know you
are proud of them, and they are of you.
Faye and Ashton will fly up from Little Rock Sunday, December
24th and spend Christmas here. If my cold is well enough (and it is better)
I'll go to Charlotte and family in Gary, Indiana, leaving here Saturday,
December 23rd. Mary had invited Anna, Judge, Nelson and me to come to Shreveport,
La, for Christmas, but Anna and us wanted things so much as possible like
they've been before.
We just have a week's Christmas vacation out of school December
22nd - and back Jan. 2nd. They may turn out on Wednesday, Dec. 20th.
I have a neat, nice middle aged couple in my homeplace now. I'm
glad you are going to keep your homeplace still in your family. Wish I
wouldn't be so sentimental.
Week before last Anna went with Judge Wilson to Texarkana for
a week, where he held court. Another couple from his Fort Smith office
went too, and it was a nice change for Anna.
Clara Weaver invited Bess and me to spend Thanksgiving with her
in Drumright, Oklahoma. It was not a convenient time to go, for Bess had
such a cold, and we had a cousin from Texas coming with her husband to
see us part of Thanksgiving week, therefore we didn't go. Clara then with
a friend went on over to Harry's at Sallisaw. Mrs. Weaver passed away,
the middle of September.
Take good care of yourself, Ruth, and we are wishing you and
yours a very happy Christmas.
Anna and Judge join me in good wishes,
Much, much love,
Pauline
P.S. I'm trying to write Jesse and Zara before Christmas. I appreciate
their nice note and yours.
Love, P.S.F.